Setting Goals for the New Year
What is really important to YOU?
We are often led to believe we should be doing a certain thing with our horses. In a certain way, at a certain level, in a certain amount of time.
These beliefs have been congregated over time from past experiences, memories and knowledge we’ve acquired.
But from all the things you do with your horse and the beliefs you have about yourself and your horse, what has really come from you? In what way has your environment influenced you and is it truly what you believe and what you want?
What really gives you fulfillment when you’re with your horse?
This is important to know when you’re setting goals for the new year. So let’s find out by answering the questions below.
Below you’ll find questions around several topics to find out what’s truly fulfilling to you.
I advice you to take out a piece of paper and write down the answers.
Also, take your time to answer these questions. Sometimes you need to dig a little bit deeper to find the true answer.
Your dreams when you were young
The older we get, the more we shape our beliefs based on all the influences around us. However, do you remember how care-free you may have been as a child? Very often, going back to that time period can tell us a lot about what gives us joy.
Sure, if you enjoyed playing cowboys and Indians as a child, I wouldn’t be surprised if that isn’t exactly what you aspire doing today. But very often there are certain elements in those activities that can be translated to things you would enjoying doing as an adult.
Evaluation of the current situation
Let’s take inventory of how you’re doing right now.
It could be the case that you now find out you’re actually pursuing a goal that require activities and actions you don’t necessarily enjoy.
Of course, sometimes you have to undertake actions that are less enjoyable in order to achieve a certain goal. But when they make up most of your time, you know you’re not on the path that suits you.
Looking at all the influences
We’ve looked at your past and the current situation. The next step is to look at all the things that may have had an influence on how you perceive yourself as a rider and what your beliefs are regarding the level you’re at and what you should be striving for.
The influence of the People around you
One of the most important influences on your beliefs come from the people around you. Think of relatives, but also the people at your stable or riding club and your trainer. This can have a positive influence, but it can also influence you in a way that, unconsciously, you’re not being true to yourself. That you’re living someone else’s life and dreams.
The influence of Social Media
Social media can be a very inspiring place, but it can also, unconsciously, lead to comparisons based on the level you should be at and how you should be working with your horse.
Sometimes you find that you’re following people that might make you feel insecure or dissatisfied about your progress, how you are as a rider and the level you’re at. This can, of course, inspire you to do better. But be careful to check if it’s really what you truly want.
The influence of your Horses
What you want to achieve with your horse and how you feel about working with your horse, is also influenced by previous experiences you’ve had with other horses and through comparisons with past success and failure with your current horse.
Remember that the only things that matters when you’re with your horse is ‘now’. Not what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. The real truth comes from your horse in the present moment.
When you look back at all the questions you’ve answered, what are your biggest insights and what actions are you going to take to live the life you truly want?
We’ve looked at what may influence your thoughts, beliefs and expectations towards yourself as a rider and towards your horse.
But the real truth is that all of these thoughts derived from these places are totally irellevant to the current situation and relationship you have with your horse.
Because none of those outside influences are You or your Horse!
The only, real truth is in the now…
Deep down, if you’re being truthful, you know what gives you fulfillment and what feels right.
Follow and your own journey and don’t forget to be happy with your progress.
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